Often when changes occur in life, they are not planned and sometimes unexpected. But you have to roll with the punches. You have to make the best you can with the hand you’re dealt. It’s fine when it’s something you’ve planned out and thought about. Although, honestly, even then things can go awry and fall through. Or they can fail miserably even though you thought you planned well. I have had many a decision in my life not turn out the way I planned it. I thought I had looked at it from all angles and made the best decision I could only to have it slip to the side or turn out completely different from what I intended.
When sudden changes occur that are beyond your control or not expected – it can be very unsettling. Someone dies unexpectedly, your car dies completely, or you lose a job. Those things can be very hard to plan for or handle when they happen. Suddenly everything you thought you knew has changed. I always think of the funny quote about how just when I thought I had all the answers, they changed all the questions. Change is hard to take when it’s planned, but even worse when it hits you out of the blue.
Everyone handles change in a different way, but in some ways it can be very similar. You go through anger, grief, depression, fear and acceptance. The important thing to do is look at it from the right frame of mind. Now, when someone dies, it’s very hard to get to that point. You are grieving the loss of a loved one. But when something else major happens, it’s up to you to approach it with the right frame of mind. You can look at it as a horrible tragedy, an insurmountable challenge. You can let it freeze you in place and keep you down. Or you can look at it as an opportunity to move forward.
I was hit with something life changing on Friday. I think I was in shock at first. But given 24 hours to process it, I decided that instead of being angry, frustrated, and sad I was going to use it as a step to move forward. I’m not going to sit and cry about it. I’m not going to let it keep me down. Instead I’m going to use it as a launch pad to go onward and upward. This isn’t a loss, it’s an opportunity. I’m grateful for it. The saying I always liked was don’t cry because it’s over, be glad that it happened. I’m grateful for the experience and all that I learned. But now it’s time to move on to new adventures and new experiences. We only have so much time on this planet. We can use that time regretting, being sorry, or angry. Or we can see it as an adventure – taking us into the great wide open.